I get so sick of people telling me to not be pissed off at the world!
If I'm pissed off, I'm pissed off and the worst thing you can do is tell me that's not ok.
It is ok!
It's fine to be extremely pissed off at the world, a person, a situation or even yourself.
Anger is a completely normal human emotion and if anyone tells you otherwise they're not only lying but doing you a huge disservice.
So be pissed up. Get mad. Get furious. Scream and shout at the world. Beat things up. Write hate mail. Rant and rage. Be ok with being pissed off and also ok with expressing that!
I mean it.
But......
It isn't ok to harm others in the process. In other words, destroy your stuff, not someone else's. Beat yourself up, not someone else. Write hate mail but don't send it.
And use your anger to get things done. Anger is a great catalyst and when channeled the right way it can kick your butt right out of your mood and cause you to rampage through the world, shoving everyone and everything out of your way as you stomp through and get a shitload of stuff done.
In fact the reason anger often turns to rage is that people get frustrated because they feel like they have no outlet for it. Turn that into action. Massive, passionate, huge, life changing action.
Become a one man riot and everyone will get out of your way, leaving you to you'll get stuff done. Then see how you feel. A lot better I bet!
Thursday, November 27, 2014
Wednesday, November 19, 2014
Those flippin hormones
I swear hormones have caused so many problems for so many people, including being a major cause in them ending their lives!
Hormones are part of the biology of who we are and as such we have to deal with them. It's a human thing.
But....
OMG can they get out of whack!
At any age, not just puberty (which is what a lot of people will tell you). From the minute you're born hormones are at work, balancing (and unbalancing) your physical body.
They're not just internal either. They're affected by what you eat and drink, how much sleep you get, internal and external stress, the air you breath, toxins and chemicals you're exposed to, other people, and a whole lot of other things.
They can make you blissfully happy or crush you with extreme torture and pain.
And they can make you feel suicidal, when otherwise you may not.
If you want to die it's very important to look at hormonal causes, and fix those first.
I can't tell you how to do that because it's different for everyone but here are some things to look at:
• What are you eating? Change something and see if you feel better or worse. Over time you can figure out what foods trigger you and adjust your diet accordingly.
• Are you getting enough (or too much) sleep? Or are you sleeping at the right or wrong times. Try different amounts of sleep and schedules to see if it makes a difference.
• Are you drinking or taking drugs? Change it up or stop all together to see if if changes your mood.
• Same with smoking. Regular cigarettes can do all sorts of things to your physical body, including mess with your hormones.
• Figure out what's causing you stress and try different ways of dealing with it, or see if you can remove yourself from the situation. More on this later and it can change your life.
• Research supplements that may help. Talk to a doctor of course but go for natural options if possible (food is medicine too... see above).
Can you think of more? Add them in the comments.
The important thing is to realize many things can affect your hormones which can totally mess with your life.
Hormones are part of the biology of who we are and as such we have to deal with them. It's a human thing.
But....
OMG can they get out of whack!
At any age, not just puberty (which is what a lot of people will tell you). From the minute you're born hormones are at work, balancing (and unbalancing) your physical body.
They're not just internal either. They're affected by what you eat and drink, how much sleep you get, internal and external stress, the air you breath, toxins and chemicals you're exposed to, other people, and a whole lot of other things.
They can make you blissfully happy or crush you with extreme torture and pain.
And they can make you feel suicidal, when otherwise you may not.
If you want to die it's very important to look at hormonal causes, and fix those first.
I can't tell you how to do that because it's different for everyone but here are some things to look at:
• What are you eating? Change something and see if you feel better or worse. Over time you can figure out what foods trigger you and adjust your diet accordingly.
• Are you getting enough (or too much) sleep? Or are you sleeping at the right or wrong times. Try different amounts of sleep and schedules to see if it makes a difference.
• Are you drinking or taking drugs? Change it up or stop all together to see if if changes your mood.
• Same with smoking. Regular cigarettes can do all sorts of things to your physical body, including mess with your hormones.
• Figure out what's causing you stress and try different ways of dealing with it, or see if you can remove yourself from the situation. More on this later and it can change your life.
• Research supplements that may help. Talk to a doctor of course but go for natural options if possible (food is medicine too... see above).
Can you think of more? Add them in the comments.
The important thing is to realize many things can affect your hormones which can totally mess with your life.
Tuesday, November 11, 2014
Distraction Can Keep You Alive
When you want to die it's easy to spend all your time thinking about it, feeling it, and imagining doing it.
As I've said before, what you focus on grows so the more you do this the more you're going to want to die. Maybe to the point you actually do it.
In order to buy yourself some time and also take a break to see what else might be going on in the world, try some distraction.
Not just any old distraction but distraction specifically meant to occupy your mind and body for a little while.
I used to do it in the way of giving myself an assignment, like watching every single episode of a series in order, going through every Popeye's Chicken drive-thru in a 50 mile radius (yeah weird, I know), solving every crossword in a book and so on.
The reason you assign something rather than just looking for a random distraction is that it forces you to focus on something other than dying. As you go through the assignment, you may also find that there's a feeling of accomplishment in getting things done, which may cause you to decide to get other things done. It may also cause you to tell your friends you're too busy for them because you have to get chicken legs all over town. Ha! Just think of their faces when you hit them with that :)
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Another type of distraction that works is anything that makes you laugh. For me this includes watching funny videos and YouTubes, reading and sharing jokes, and hanging out with people I think are funny. When you laugh it releases different chemicals in your brain, which temporarily sets aside the "I want to die" feelings.
The trick here is you have to genuinely be amused. No fake smiles while you're internally suffering or rolling your eyes. Try different things until you find what works for you.
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As I've said before, what you focus on grows so the more you do this the more you're going to want to die. Maybe to the point you actually do it.
In order to buy yourself some time and also take a break to see what else might be going on in the world, try some distraction.
Not just any old distraction but distraction specifically meant to occupy your mind and body for a little while.
I used to do it in the way of giving myself an assignment, like watching every single episode of a series in order, going through every Popeye's Chicken drive-thru in a 50 mile radius (yeah weird, I know), solving every crossword in a book and so on.
The reason you assign something rather than just looking for a random distraction is that it forces you to focus on something other than dying. As you go through the assignment, you may also find that there's a feeling of accomplishment in getting things done, which may cause you to decide to get other things done. It may also cause you to tell your friends you're too busy for them because you have to get chicken legs all over town. Ha! Just think of their faces when you hit them with that :)
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Another type of distraction that works is anything that makes you laugh. For me this includes watching funny videos and YouTubes, reading and sharing jokes, and hanging out with people I think are funny. When you laugh it releases different chemicals in your brain, which temporarily sets aside the "I want to die" feelings.
The trick here is you have to genuinely be amused. No fake smiles while you're internally suffering or rolling your eyes. Try different things until you find what works for you.
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A final thought on this. Don't distract yourself with work or obligations. All you'll do is get grumpy because you don't want to do them. Do something fun, or if nothing seems fun then something you think might be fun. And keep doing until you find something that actually IS fun!
Thursday, November 6, 2014
Life is Fatal
It's true. None of us get out of here alive. Someday, somehow our bodies are going to quit working and we're going to leave this planet.
The question is.... what will you do in the mean time?
Yeah I know it kind of sounds dumb. It did to me when someone first asked me that years ago. I think I said something like "I hate this place! All I'm doing is getting through and waiting to die!"
I really felt that way. But over time I decided that I may as well fill the time with "something" other than just waiting.
And I started doing just that. First it was little stuff like looking up old TV shows I hadn't seen in a long time and songs I liked but hadn't heard in forever. Then it was making some of my favorite foods (I used to love to cook but lost interest at some point). Then I took up knitting again... for a day. Not interested in that anymore. Then drawing. Liked that for a while but then lost interest. Then surfing the net to learn new things. That was fun. Then I started trying what I'd learned. Then I started going places I'd heard about. Then this. And that. And this other thing.
Over time life became interesting and I no longer thought so much about wanting to die NOW.
"Someday" was good enough, and it might be good enough for you too. And who knows, maybe in the interim you'll be able to have a few adventures.
So remember... life is fatal anyway so you may as well do something while you're waiting to die.
The question is.... what will you do in the mean time?
Yeah I know it kind of sounds dumb. It did to me when someone first asked me that years ago. I think I said something like "I hate this place! All I'm doing is getting through and waiting to die!"
I really felt that way. But over time I decided that I may as well fill the time with "something" other than just waiting.
And I started doing just that. First it was little stuff like looking up old TV shows I hadn't seen in a long time and songs I liked but hadn't heard in forever. Then it was making some of my favorite foods (I used to love to cook but lost interest at some point). Then I took up knitting again... for a day. Not interested in that anymore. Then drawing. Liked that for a while but then lost interest. Then surfing the net to learn new things. That was fun. Then I started trying what I'd learned. Then I started going places I'd heard about. Then this. And that. And this other thing.
Over time life became interesting and I no longer thought so much about wanting to die NOW.
"Someday" was good enough, and it might be good enough for you too. And who knows, maybe in the interim you'll be able to have a few adventures.
So remember... life is fatal anyway so you may as well do something while you're waiting to die.
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