We are always alone

We are always ALONE.

We are born alone.  We die alone.  And ultimately, no matter how many people are around us, we spend our entire lives alone.

Depressing huh?

But also freeing!

Ultimately we have no one to answer to but ourselves.  We have no one to please but ourselves.  We have no one to look up to but ourselves.  And we are responsible to no one but ourselves.

A lot of depression and wanting to kill ourselves stems from feeling like everyone wants something from us, like we can't compete, fit in or live up to expectations, and like this world is too confusing and hard to figure out.

So forget it all. 

Let them want something from you – you don't have to give it unless you want to.

Let them compete with one another – you don't have to participate in the games.

Forget about fitting in with them – do your own thing.

The only expectations you have to live up to are your own.

Yes the world is confusing and yes it's hard to figure out. So what?  You don't have to conquer it, just find your little corner.  Trust me once you have it becomes crystal clear and easy to navigate.

Once you realize you are truly ALONE and become OK with that your entire life changes for the better.  You stop caring what people think, stop expecting them to accept you, stop wanting them to conform to your way of being (yes you want this just like they want you to conform to them), and you stop wanting to die.  Why?  Because life is now played by your rules and done your way.

Once you realize this you will also take care of yourself.  You'll stop expecting anyone to pay your bills, feed you, clothe you or otherwise take care of yourself.  You'll become independent and start participating in the world YOUR way because this is how you live on your terms.  See when others pay your way then you become indebted to them and you have to listen to their BS.  When you pay your way then you take BS from no one.   Yes you may take BS from bosses, etc. but it's different....

If you're stuck in the opposite position (you take care of everyone else) then you'll stop doing that too.  You'll start saying NO, which feels really great, and kick people out who are sucking you dry.  You'll become very picky about who you associate with and what obligations you take on and what you put up with. 

Some people may call you a bitch or prick but so be it. You are taking care of YOU.  Finally. 

You are born alone.  You die alone.  In between it is you ALONE who gets to decide how to live.